Hello 2019, here are my goals for January

Hello 2019! Welcome, take your shoes off and stay awhile! I am glad you are here. Anyone else saying the same damn thing right now?

So welcome to the “My Transparent Lifestyle” section of the site! A little area I can be even more real with you and we can have some straight up real talk girl talks.

So I am all for the making of resolutions. I am also all for making too many and not finishing them all before the end of the year. I shoot for the moon and just end up reaching the top of the trees. Higher than I originally was, but not nearly as high as I want to be. Yet I still do them.

This year though I am doing things a bit differently. I am still setting up some ridiculously lofty goals, but I am also setting myself up for success by doing 2 things:

Real talk girl talk: Starting my meditations again
Real talk girl talk: Starting my meditations again
Real talk girl talk: Starting my meditations again
  • Having an accountability partner. There is something to be said about setting goals with your significant other. Someone who you can see struggling through the same crap you are. Haha. I am just kidding about that last part. But I am being serious though about how great it is having your significant other as your accountability partner.

  • Setting up mini goals to keep up every month. 30 days sounds a lot less threatening than 365. Am I right?

So what is my goal for the month? Getting back on the meditation bus of course! Something small and easy, but can make a huge difference.

I am not new to the practice of meditation.

We’re old friends that talked every day. We connected on a deep level, but like friends we lost touch over time. We went on thinking about each other every now and again, but not making the effort to get in touch. Okay yes this got a bit weird, but at least you understand where I am coming from.

Why I want to start again

I have been noticing over the last year that my body is taking a huge hit. Some of it because of food and lack of exercise, but I also know that stress can produce many physical effects as well. So while I already have a workout plan to help me kick some ass, I really needed to get a stess minimizer plan in check. Enter meditation. Hello old friend. And introducing visualization. Hello new friend.

So what’s the game plan?

Well I for one am not the sunrise meditation type of person. I know this about me. Oh I can get up in the morning, but when it comes to my mornings, I much appreciate a get up and go sort of attitude. Which yes, yes I realize that goes against what the big fish tell you to. I am not saying to go against what anyone else tells you to do. I am just saying that for me it just really does not work out well me.

Why does it not work well for me?

For 2 reasons:

1- Sitting on my butt and just relaxing is a 99% guarantee that I will not be moving the rest of the day. Or

2- My mind focuses on the to do list I have in front of me. Then I get amped up and want to get started.

It really all depends on how my mind wants to behave that day.

So what can I do in the morning that is aligned with me?

Well I have one thing that will solve both the problems I just presented: visualization.

By sitting at the table with a tea in hand and writing/reviewing my to do list or brainstorming a new project, I can spend the time effectively visualizing the best outcome for my day and get amped up to get started. I can start anticipating my day, rather than just going with the flow and having a blah demenor about it.

So when should I meditate?

For me it’s best to meditate at night. While my mind may not shut the heck up, I know I have nothing pressing to get done, because I am done for the day! So it’s my time to wind down. and to just chill. I like to throw a little yoga in there sometimes as well. So I am committing to a little incense, some soft music and 5 mins of meditation a night.

New old habits are never easy to start up again, but there is a reason why we have them in the first place, so I might as well suck it up and kick some ass!

What can I do to set myself up for success?

Everyone will tell you to keep things simple and they are not wrong. I am not one for overcomplicating this process. Once things get complicated I don’t want to do it anymore. But I know some things that I don’t enjoy during my meditations:

1- Guided meditations. I struggle with someone telling me what to do during a meditation. So instead I choose some classical music, but my abosolute favourite music to meditate too is The Nutcracker Soundtrack. I love getting lost in the music.

2- I can’t always sit still. I am sure you feel this way sometimes too. So a little bit of yoga thrown in can make the world of difference.

3- I can’t do it outside. I love nature, but unless it’s night time I find I get distracted by the sights, sounds and smells of everything around me. It is just much easier for me to do it inside and that’s okay!

Moral of the story

If meditation is something you have been dying to try, but have made every excuse in the book not to do it, then here are two excuses you can’t get away with anymore.

1- I am not a morning person. I can’t start my day off by meditating. Okay fair enough. Then try at night. I get it. I feel you. But that is no excuse, at least not any more. Try it at night or at the very least at the end of your work day. This could be the ticket to you having a better sleep at night.

Just because everyone says you should do it in the morning and you feel like you can’t, doesn’t mean you should stop. What works for one may not work someone else. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re taking a practice and making it work for you. You are making this a priority and enjoying it at a time that works for you.

2- I am not a resolution person. That will be gone by Feb. Good, I hope it is. That way you can start something new. Just commit to 30 days. You might surprise yourself. If 30 days sound daunting try just 7 at a time. Heck just one day at a time. If you want something bad enough you will find a way to do it.

Any more excuses? No? Fabulous! Well wish me luck on restarting! I know I am looking forward to it!

Until next time,

Peace, love and creativity